“I come from a culture that constantly judges women on their body shape, their complexion, their height, their ability to cook…”
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Many of you have heard or read about the “Dear Fat People” video that’s been circling around the internet. I don’t want to share the link because it’s just giving her more attention. However, my husband and I decided to watch it to see what it was all about.
Now, I do agree that *EVERYONE* (skinny, fat, and everything in between) should take care of their health and bodies. However, I do not agree with people making jokes and trying to justify that it is okay to hurt someone’s feelings.
I come from a culture that constantly judges women on their body shape, their complexion, their height, their ability to cook, etc. I wholeheartedly HATE that. I know that I have a little muffin top because, come on, I love food, but I am told that I am fat or that I look pregnant (which I’m not). I’m constantly being compared to this person or the next and it’s not fair!
I feel like the only descriptions Bangladeshis know are “she’s fat”, “she’s not light skinned”, or “she’s too tall”. Yes, I’ve heard some complain about height! I think the worst part is when someone asks me if another person, who is present, is fat. I cannot and will not ever be okay with that. Being “fat” in my culture doesn’t mean you are overweight. No, it means that you have a little extra meat than the average Bollywood actress.
So back to the point, this mentality of judging a person by their looks is overrated. Like, seriously, wake up. It’s the time to embrace all bodies, all colors, all sizes, everything. Yes, you have the right to not be okay with certain things, but you do not have the right to hurt someone else. If you’ve ever made that mistake before, it’s okay, we forgive you. Just please try not to judge or hurt anyone’s feelings.